February 23, 2018

Hard to help?

Two businesspeople in slightly tense conversationAre you hard to help? Or does that just apply to some of the people you work with?

It’s such a waste when we make it difficult for other people to give us the help we need; when we let our pride or our ego put up barriers when others are trying to act in our best interests. You would think we wouldn’t apply the brakes to our own development and growth, but we do.

Maybe you wouldn’t do that, but don’t we all have some area of potential change where we resist?

To make progress, we need to start by being open to input ourselves. Then others are more likely to accept suggestions from us.

Like with much in life, we have to go first.

The only thing missing from any situation…

Woman reflecting…is what you’re not giving.

That’s a line from a book called “A Course in Miracles,” highlighted by Marianne Williamson.

Useful secular advice it is too… When things get difficult, it’s tempting to expect other people to make the running; to attempt reconciliation with us; to start building a bridge. Actually, if moving on is important to us, we need to go first. That’s the only reliable option.

So much, so obvious perhaps.

But it helps to think of what we are withholding; what more we could give; what being generous would mean.

And then to offer that.

Even if our effort is not reciprocated, a least we change our feelings about the situation.

And move on in ourselves.